"Single Daddy," who lives with her two daughters, aged 18 and 14, has found Channel A, "My Little Little Like parenting Gold" broadcast on the 25th. Father, who appeared in the studio, was thrilled to have waited 10 years to meet Oh Eun Young Doctorate. I have also told the story of EBS <My child has changed> in the past, but unfortunately it has not been adopted. What was wrong with the affectionate Father and the active Sisters, for ten years?
In the video, the gold was hanging out with friends, wearing shorts even in the unusually cold weather. Was it cold? After a while, he rode home on his bike, and while he was on his way home, a man suddenly asked for directions. I wonder if I was speechless in a sudden situation. I left without answering.
The next day, he went to the store with Father to match his uniform, and he did not answer the boss's question to see if it was sized or not uncomfortable. There was no word until he left the store. Why did he not say anything? Father explained that he did not even react reflexively when miso soup was poured over his knee, and that he did not speak even in urgent situations.
Oh Eun Young diagnosed the gold biceps as 'Choicesic hapsis' and explained the cause was 'Anxiety'. As I covered in the 53rd broadcast, I do not speak on purpose, but it is a symptom that does not come out. For example, if you are in a situation where anyone can do Anxiety, as you do when you meet a robber, there is no problem, but people with high Anxiety feel Anxiety in everyday situations. Therefore, no matter who asks the way on the road, it feels like you have encountered a beast in front of you.
In addition, for children with Choices' slurs, the question bomb is absolutely forbidden. The questioner is asking questions with good intentions, but the process of answering them is not only slow but uncomfortable, and even a very routine question feels like a bomb. Just as the gold side did in school uniforms and beauty salons, it can be a big constraint on everyday life if you repeat these uncomfortable situations.
Oh Eun Young explained that people with Choices' slurs usually have Anxiety when they have a normal social relationship. He didn’t want to take off his mask, but he felt more than shy when a strange team visited him, and he didn’t know what to do. Children who feel extreme anxieties may try to hide their whole body, and on the contrary, they refuse to wear clothes themselves.
The reason why the gold sticks to shorts in the cold winter is understandable in the same context: he was trying to keep himself comfortable. In short, he was a child who resisted change. Also, the constant touching of hair was also a pursuit of tactile sense by Anxiety, and long hair was a defense against Anxiety. The gold side was in a difficult and difficult situation.
"Parents often divorce; that doesn't mean that their children are all Choicesic mutisms; 'Why is that?' You have to think about it" (Oh Eun Young)
While Father was at work, the Sisters remained alone and talked to each other. The subject naturally moved to Mom, and the gold soon closed. Is it as difficult as talking about my mother with Sister? Father said the divorce case, which had been going on for three years in early November last year, was over. At the time, Keum was an elementary school student, and (as was Sister) had expressed his intention to live with Father.
Oh Eun Young analyzed that the temperament of the gold side is 'Slow to warm up', that is, a slow temperament; it takes a long time to accept new stimulus. Parents’ waiting is very important because they are not able to express their emotions, but in the case of Geum-i, they have no successful experience in emotional communication. He was afraid and afraid of the negative memories of communication. He did not know How to express his inner feelings.
In addition to that temperament, the gold side has suffered a great deal of difficulties that I never thought of in my life: a divorce from my parents. "Who would you live with, Mother Father?" It was a painful question that came to the gold side, which was a difficult question to answer, and How much trouble did he have at that young age? And the many questions that the people around him might have asked about their parents were difficult for the slow-tempered goldhead to cope with.
Meanwhile, the state of Sister on the gold side was also worrisome: she looked fine compared to the gold side, including taking care of her brother, but Oh Eun Young's thoughts were different. He caught the difficulty of the relationship behind the bright-looking Sister, and he was worried about the family, not only with his face but also without his features. Sister, who had to represent her brother who had closed her mouth at the age of need for her parents, had difficulty guessing How heavy her shoulders would have been.
"Who do you look like, Father or Mom?"
"Father."
"How about thinking about Father and Sister?"
Thank you
"Do you have anything you want to tell Father and Sister?"
"Inwardly."
At the end of the day, the gold and the crew, who did not say anything, talked briefly in letters. Oh Eun Young met with the gold side separately and said, "I know that the teacher wants to talk more than anyone. I do not have to say it when I am with my teacher, it is okay. "It was okay, and I cried silently. Oh Eun Young said that crying is good.
The first step in 'Gold Prescription' to overcome Choices' s slurs was 'reading the heart of the gold'. The gold family decided to have a deep emotional communication time through family meetings. Father, who had been struggling and repressed, promised to express more of his mind: The next step was a "ten-minute eye-catching conversation." At first I didn’t look at the awkwardness, but I was better off practicing it over and over again every day
The last step was to practice sentence-telling with life-like words, with names all over the house, and to communicate with them by making simple sentences. And I also met Choices, who appeared 53 times in particular, with a gold medal. (53 times) She laughed broadly, saying that her mother had improved her condition rapidly since the solution, and that she was now a chatterer.
Courageous, Father suggested creating a family audio book: a training exercise to develop confidence to speak while recording a voice reading a book. At first, the awkward gold side was looking for confidence a little bit, and after the efforts of the family, the gold side was able to talk more comfortably. I don’t doubt it will be the day that the goldhead will become a chatterer. I hope the goldhead enjoys normal happiness.