Channel A, which was broadcast on the afternoon of the 15th, 'parenting these days - My Kid like the Golden', revealed the story of a young mother and a 5-year-old daughter who beat herself.
"I started reporting my marriage at the age of 23 because I was a little younger and I was opposed to it," said the mother. The two are three years and seven months old, but they are seven years old.
The gold side is a violent rebel if you do not listen to what you want, leaving the flock, and even when you stop watching TV, you have to throw a remote control and break the TV, the gold mother said.
The gold man suddenly jumped into the driveway, even on his way to the House of Representatives with his mother, and the child tried to run alone, refusing to walk with his mother.
The gold woman had been called by her friends before, and she had been in a dangerous situation, even though she was on her way to and from each other.
Also, when I saw the video taken by the nursery teacher of the gold side, the gold side was screaming alone, saying that it would organize the things. With everyone getting serious, only Oh Eun Young Doctorate was laughing, and Oh Doctorate said, "I understood 90%."
Oh Doctorate said, "The most important thing that I said in this video is, I will sort it out, 'I'. You should remember this well, "he advised." This is a word that is an important key. "
Oh Doctorate said: "Children are active and active for survival, kicking from the time they're in their stomachs, and crying is also a bark to survive. After this period, the motor nerves have developed from about half a stone, and they are just running. "
"The child speaks and acts on his own and grows into a self-directed human being. This is a common development process of human beings. It seems that the gold side is trying very hard to actively grow and develop. "
However, when he was working with his mother, he was angry and hit his head with anger when he did not like it.
Oh Doctorate said: "This is an urgent action to be addressed. Self-harm. Self-harm is always an aggressive action.
Oh Doctorate explained that the coping method varies depending on the cause: "If the child is so angry that he is self-inflicted, he must find the reason for his anger. And if the child is interested in it, you should really be interested in making the child feel comfortable and loved as a parent. "
Oh Doctorate said then: "I said I think I know 90% in front of you, basically, the gold side seems to have no problem." As a result of checking the developmental ability of 4-year-olds, there were no problems in life, language, sociality, cognition, and activity.
Eventually, on the way home, the mother burst into tears, when the gold Father said, "My mother cries because of the gold," and the child quickly became bleak.
Oh, Doctorate saw this video and said, "My mother was so poor. My mother, Father. I'm trying very hard, but I do not know. "I thought it was hard every day," he said. "But the gold was worse. He was only three years and seven months old, and he grabbed his mother's hand."
"In fact, it's what an adult does to a child. I have to ask why I was angry and why I hit him. He asked me why he was crying. "But when my mother cries in front of my child, this is a parent type that makes the child very difficult."
"If you cry in front of a child in a parenting situation, the child becomes very confused," he added.
Oh Doctorate made a major decision: "So we have to change the gold side, Mother Father is the gold side."
Mother Father was angry when she saw the child who was still fighting, and the child went into the room alone and hit her head. The studio panels felt sorry for the child who was confused and entered the room alone and was saddened.
Then, in the middle of the night, he lowered his pants in the room and urinated. In fact, it was not a day or two before the child urinated in the room. The next day, the child woke up at dawn with urine, and the gold mother rant at the child.
The child said, "Do not hover," but the mother hit the child harshly and kicked him.
Oh Doctorate said: "The child has no developmental problems; children are originally having trouble defecation at night. "It is a principle to watch the enuresis for children under 5 years old," he said. "But this scene is night vision." Night vision refers to a panic that a child suddenly wakes up in sleep.
"Night vision is a symptom that is often seen in children, but dreams are like the daily life of children. It seems that the child does not sleep well and dreams of fear."
So my mother, Kim, told me a frank story. My mother, Kim, said, "I fought a great deal with the groom last year. I thought that I was doing parenting alone, so I thought that I had done this so far, so I left the child to the groom and left the house. " "I went out of my house for about two months," he said. "I ran away a few times after that."
Oh, Doctorate said, "I understand you. You've been through a lot of hardships as a human being. But you're still a mother.
My wife, who was 23 years old at a young age in a year, said, "My mother died at the age of seven and stayed in a shelter until the age of 22." Then I met the groom and he loved me. I was happy then. "
My mother replied yes to O Doctorate's question: "Do you think your husband's love has changed?" He said: "I know it's hard to work with the groom, but I want you to spend time together."
"I am young, so I want to leave it to my in-laws and my family, and I want to go out with the groom, but there is no one to look at it."
Oh Doctorate, according to a preliminary psychological test of her mother, said, "My mother seems to have been lonely for a lifetime. So to make up for this loneliness, I needed my mother to be close to someone and to stay close. My mother seems to have wanted to make a bond by making the loneliness through her spouse and children. "
The gold side was vividly remembering the fact that the child had gone far, and the gold side said, "I am tears." "I am afraid if my mother is angry, is it?
On the day, O Doctorate provided three gold-siders with a "gibe and gib solution"; he advised his parents to "give and give to the child, and continue to give love."
"The baby is frustrated or Anxiety is afraid that the mother will leave, and when the parents fight, when they do not know their expression, this is the reason for self-injury," he said. "You have to stop overreacting immediately when the child self-injures. "You shouldn't be pretending you don't see it," he said.
Oh Doctorate also advised, "Mom Father should study to understand the gold side well; we should observe and learn good writing, video, and good parents around."