"It's a long journey to raise a child to an adult." (Oh Eun Young)
On the 18th, the second part of the solution of Jewelry Lee Ji Hyun and ADHD Geum Lee, the main character of Channel A <Golden My Kid> project, was broadcast. A month ago, when I briefly examined the broadcast, the gold-haired abuse was basically violent, such as kicking at my mother. Lee Ji Hyun was helpless to the gold-clad who was wearing the live herd; Oh Eun Young called on Lee Ji Hyun to wake up, saying, "It can not be worse."
For a month .. did the solution work? Lee Ji Hyun tried to control awakening, but confessed that there was difficulty. Nevertheless, he tried to understand the feelings of the gold side first, and when Brother and Sister fought, he made an effort to listen to the story separately after separation. However, reality was not mathematics, it did not apply as formulas, and Shin Ae-ra cheered that if we overcome myriad variables, we will have a more valuable answer.
Here's the gold. Let's look into the routine. Lee Ji Hyun and Jin-yi discussed the rules of life together. Game decided to do three 30 minutes a day, and six pages for homework. I felt good, and the gold side voluntarily suggested the rule that 'Bob eats itself' and 'Do not get angry with my mother without being confronted by my mother'. Lee Ji Hyun was thrilled by the active appearance of the gold side. Can the rules of life be kept?
The next day, the gold medalist said he would play the Game as soon as he got up, and Lee Ji Hyun respected autonomy. But after half an hour, he said he would use it one more time, and then he finished it three times in a row. Oh Eun Young pointed out How he saw the gold-backed "set up the rules of life." First, he pointed out that the award (although there are penalties) was missing. The appropriate prize is a great motivation for the child.
In addition, when setting rules, it is advised to include 'jure'; specifying the subject has the effect of strengthening the subject consciousness. He added that if you make a rule sentence roughly, you may have problems with everything. In fact, the gold protested against the penalty because there was no expression "immediately". Oh Eun Young set a 'check day' and asked them to apply it for a week and then go through a compromise and supplementation process; the process is more important than the result.
The gold-headed man who went to the math academy had a good time in class, but refused to take the test, saying he didn’t like it. Lee Ji-Hyun had soothed the excited gold-headed man, but the gold-headed man was also a fool. The whining gold man kicked and took his anger. “My life is a waste of course.” The scuffle lasted an hour. Unbearable Lee Ji Hyun stepped out of the seat; the gold side blocked the departing Lee Ji Hyun.
The gold clings to tears, and Lee Ji Hyun burst into a feeling that he endured. As the sister watched the situation pushed it to dry the gold, the gold side familiarly caught her hair. The conflict spread to the Brother and Sister fight. Lee Ji Hyun and the gold side that caught her mother, who was about to leave, had no backing down. I was getting tired of my daily life.
"There is a reason (for every child's behavior): I think understanding this will help us solve the difficulties in this situation with the gold side in the future." (Oh Eun Young)
To solve the problem, I needed to understand the gold side. Oh Eun Young analyzed that the gold side is 'a sensitive child belonging to the top 1%'. There were some features of the sensitive gold side, but the gold side was not comprehensively understood in the whole situation, but when his sensitivity touched, he heard everything. This is because the sensitivity index surges in a word of discomfort. This communication is irrelevant to understanding.
And he didn’t back down, because stepping back to the gold side was like defeat, and he preferred what he was used to. Math is good, but extremely sensitive to unpredictable tests. So what should we do? Oh Eun Young saw the gold side as a 'child who needs rehearsal'. Therefore, a clear and detailed prior notice is needed before doing anything.
Oh Eun Young advised me to deal with "Let's go home and discuss it again" rather than "do what you want" if the gold side refuses. It is also important to make sure that Yi Giera does not feel Anxiety that she feels rejected by her mother's "do what you want" from the standpoint. Oh Eun Young applied the "law of the three-way version" and asked him to give him a lot of opportunities, not a message that "it is today or not."
"I'm so hard for the gold side, I wasn't this kid, but I'm doing this because of him, and I didn't want to be so angry." (Gold is my sister)
Meanwhile, the seemingly outbreak of Brother and Sister war was also a serious problem: when the quarrel broke out, Lee Ji Hyun (a sick finger) circled around the gold side. The frustrated sister burst into tears. Lee Ji Hyun decided to separate Brother and Sister to hear the story. What do you think? She cried, saying that she felt like she had ruined her life. She was unhappy with her efforts alone.
The gold man, who was waiting alone in the living room, chased him into the room and tried to take his mother's attention. Eventually, Lee Ji Hyun had to finish the conversation with her sister briefly; after a while, the gold side crawled under the desk and crouched down. I felt sorry for her, too, and Lee Ji Hyun’s voice softened. I stroked her gold side.
Lee Ji Hyun and the studio MCs who heard Oh Eun Young's explanation were surprised that they did not even think of it, because they thought they would have done it simply because they were afraid of being hurt. But you don’t have to think, “Are you clever?” “I’m just not learning any other way to respond, because of Yi Gi. Oh Eun Young has begged her not to look at her child as an adult standard.
In the meantime, it was always a part to point out that I always send my sister first in the conflict situation, and the finishing is with the gold side. Of course, she understood her mother better than she was, and she was more understanding than her age. Her psychological state was very Anxiety, she was tired of repeated Brother and Sister conflicts, and she was lacking in her mother's love.
Oh Eun Young noted that too sick fingers cannot properly discipline: a pity is often linked to "onyaoya." It is a dilemma for parents who raise sick children. But if you stay too child-oriented, you will not experience what you have to experience in your life. Oh Eun Young pointed out that growing like a flower in a greenhouse makes it more Anxiety.
On the other hand, when things did not work out as he wanted, he tried to run away. Five hours after leaving the house, he did not return home. Lee Ji Hyun, anxious, went looking for the gold tooth himself; after a while, it was confirmed that the gold tooth's cell phone was turned on and went to a friend's house. Lee Ji Hyun complained that this day is eight days out of ten days, and it is common to go out to find the gold.
Oh Eun Young explained that the current way that the gold side learned to get what he wanted seemed to be 'mom control'. The gold side, who was quick to notice and grasp the situation, knew her weakness: ' (Gold side) tears, refusal to eat, run away'. I wonder if the gold side that uses her weakness as a weapon will change. Next week, Oh Eun Young will direct the field coaching and direct the gold side.
The trailer even had a spleen: more serious than ever, Oh Eun Young's advice followed, and a firm will to "get dark and go." I wonder if Lee Ji Hyun will regain the leadership of the parenting. I wonder what the end of the longest project will be like.