A seven-year-old daughter, a gold-haired parent, came to Channel A, My Little Bitch. The captain, Father, was a sailor. She ran a restaurant and served as a ship lunch delivery. Gold spent a lot of time at Grandma's Boy. She said that she was a mature, understanding and caring child for her age. It was Fader who had applied for the show.
First, let's look into the daily life of the gold, and while my mother was away for a while, the gold, who was singing alone, suddenly noticed and took his hand to his mouth. And I started biting Nail biting. The gold biting was so hard that it sounded like a 'tick'. After a while, this time I sat down and took my foot to my mouth. I chewed my claws. It was a rare screen.
When my mother and cousins came in, I stopped biting and ran out into the living room. She called for gold and ran a nail test. Mom tried to talk: When asked why she bit Nail biting, the gold replied, "Stick." The gold side also had a habit of sucking fingers. He had a hard flesh and inflammation on his thumb. He tried to persuade me, but it was useless.
Oh Eun Young Doctorate has said that his son has bitten Nail biting in the first grade of elementary school. When I asked why, I answered 'stress' and thought about the solution together. "If Nail biting wants to open it, I will call it 'Mom ~' by reminding my mother." So I gave you understanding and encouragement and it was said that I did not bite Nail biting from a month later.
So why does the gold look like it? Oh Eun Young has Jessie two possibilities. The first is to bite before the end of the day, and the second is to use the senses to calm it at the moment of sudden fear. When the front door sounded, people seemed relieved to come out quickly, Oh Eun Young explained that there was a need to watch for anxiety about 'sounding'.
Oh Eun Young suggested that we think from the perspective of the gold side. For once, it was the problem that Father kept calling. The gold side was feeling 'why do I keep calling and interrupting my play when I'm playing well?' And when Father called, there was nothing. Father's voice was big and scary, which made him nervous and sucked his fingers to hold the attachment doll and stabilize his mind.
If so, it’s not working to be a tree to just keep it from ripping. It’s a good idea to know the cause of the tension and change the way. Oh Eun Young advised that parents and adults should be tailored to their children. Meanwhile, Mum suggested waking up Fader lying down and having a conversation about parenting, with Fader saying: "What the hell! Good! "I was irritated by repeating only the answer.
She asked if she had spoken to him, and Father said he had not taken it seriously. Father was busy avoiding the children’s problems. Then he shouted, “Don’t raise your blood pressure.” The story suddenly went to his pride. The viewer was a frustrated screen. Father seemed to be disturbed by his own image on the screen.
How was the gold side spending time while the couple was fighting in the room? The gold side, playing alone in the other room, was listening to the sound of mother Father arguing, and was surprised every time Father raised his voice and made a sound. The gold man, who suddenly entered the room, looked at the situation and came to his mother and mumbled like a baby, and after a while he closed the door and left.
Oh Eun Young said that Father seemed to have experienced positive relationships with dogs as a child, and that it was a familiar relationship. He knew how to deal with it, but he didn’t seem to know how to deal with it, and the gold-haired man, who had been playing well with his brother, started biting Nail biting again. Eventually, Father, who was watching TV in the living room, was caught.
"Would you like to leave before Mommy comes? Would you get kicked out? Get out! Get out!"
Father pressed the gold side frightfully, ranting in a threatening tone, saying he was throwing away all his toys, and even yelling at him to get out. Jung Hyung-don tried to defend it, saying that it was not Father's heart, but it was a very scary situation for the child. The gold man, who was afraid of Father and could not keep his mouth shut, eventually burst into a crying that he had endured, and as he approached, he seemed upset by his relationship with his daughter.
Watching his actions in the video, Father blamed himself for saying, "Why am I so bad?" It was a deep regret of Father, who was inept in expression. Oh Eun Young explained that most of the attachment patterns with parents were parents and they were the same to their children, according to a wide survey of adult attachment experiences with parents. It was a tendency to treat your child the same way you received from your parents, in other words.
Is there no way? Can a person who has not formed a hard attachment with his parents give stable love to his child? The hopeful fact is that you can change by looking inside yourself, realizing the problem, and then trying to cut your bones, so you can give your child better love than you have received. You can also form a stable attachment by acquired means: Oh Eun Young wanted to hear about Father's childhood.
What about Father’s childhood, when he didn’t know how to treat his children, he said, “Not to mention it.” He said that both his parents were not there, so he lived in isolation on the island with Grandma's Boy since he was a child. Also, when I grew up in the scary Grandma's Boy hand, I confessed that I seemed to have followed it. Oh Eun Young was saddened that he could see a gap in his childhood that did not fill even when he was an adult.
In kindergarten, she was a completely different child. She was good at class, and she was focused. At the teacher’s suggestion of drawing memories with Father, the gold-earth painted a picture of playing with Father. Father in the picture was laughing. The gold side hesitated to avoid answering the teacher's question related to Father.
What is the heart of the gold? When I asked, "Is Father scary?" I nodded silently. I did not answer the question of why I lied. In retrospect, the biting of the gold claw was a small resistance that a young gold man, who had always been super-strength because of the sudden rise of anger and sudden anger at small things. Maybe that was all he could do.
Now that I knew the cause of the problem, I needed a solution. Oh Eun Young gave enough comfort to Father's childhood absence, which has never been called 'Mom' or 'Father'. I also understood and sympathized with Father's heart, which I wanted to hear the most about the word "I love you." I praised him for coming here for change. Father has never received it, so he showed a firm will to abandon the idea that he does not know how to give it.
First, Father's speech had to be changed. So far, the characteristics of Father's speech were directive, unilateral, and intellectual. It was coercive and dictatorial. The situation was emotionally pressured by the gold side. The gold side was to share the heart. They always signaled to their parents, and if they were not able to notice, they advised them to ask, and it was important to learn how to respect them through democratic dialogue.
The next time I decided to change the way I called my child, I decided not to call all the names and names, but to call them in soft terms. He had never done it in his life, and he needed a lot of effort and training, so that he could give his senses a boost by Gifting hard textured snacks instead of biting his nails. Within 15 days of the gold prescription, the Nail biting of the gold became clean.